Author: Eng. Tara Chand

Mother Teresa has become famous all over the world because of her services and she has been awarded “Bharat Ratna” by the government. I am referring you to the second Mother Teresa from Pali district of Rajasthan.

Seven decades ago, in the business town of Ajmer district, the girl Subhadra Jain was married. After a few months, there was a difference of opinion between the two (husband and wife). Mr. Husband left her at his place and went to Calcutta and got married with another woman. In order to live further, she came to Sarvodaya Kendra, three kilometers away from Rani station in Pali district, after taking permission from her brothers, and told the administrator of her woes and resolved to serve further. The administrator gave him a living room and a room for the education of the girls. First started the work of educating 3-4 girls. Slowly With the passage of time more and more girls started coming to Subhadra Behen ji for studies.

The wealthy class of Rani Kshetra bought the farm near Sarvodaya Kendra and in it the school and hostel in the name of Vidyawadi were constructed and primary education started under the guidance of Mrs. Subhadra ji. With the passage of time, the expansion of school and hostel continued in Vidyawadi and only ten years ago, this Vidyawadi educational institution was upgraded as a college and about 1000-1100 girls are living or getting higher education. Mrs. Subhadra ji, along with laying the foundation of education, continued to instill good values ​​in girls. The first thing is Every girl should do all her work with her own hands, not relying on the servants, girls were trained in such a way that in the future She could prove herself as an ideal housewife.

In the second practice, the quality was created that every girl, whether senior or junior, and the teacher, whether talking to a college student or addressing the girl of the first grade, with the name “ji”, which is still being followed even today. In the mind of Mrs. Subhadra ji, with the name of every girl is her ancestral place of residence and what business her father does. He remembered the information like a computer, while the computer was not even invented in those days. She was a living idol of “Simple life and High thinking”. Therefore, whoever meets her, does not remain without being influenced. She had also received the President’s Award. By taking out her expenses in her salary, whatever savings would have, she would spend only on investing in the work of the organization.

She suffered heart attacks twice in old age so her brothers asked her to leave Vidyawadi and come to her home in Beawar.

Hearing this, all the girls at the institution started crying loudly.  Seeing their feelings, Mrs. Subhadra ji insisted on staying.

Till her last breath She was serving the school and went to heaven a year and a half ago. 

In Pali district, the public worshiped her as Mother Teresa.

She is Still remembered today as an idol. Once again my homage to the soul to Mrs. Subhadaji.

This story will be inspirational for those women / men of the society who are associated with the education sector and in fact want to improve the future of children.

-Er. Tarachand

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बोध प्रसंग या जूनियर मदर टेरेसा

One of my colleagues was serving in a central government establishment and his wife was working as a headmaster in the education department. Ten years ago, his son went to work abroad. The parents preferred a girl for the marriage of their son, but their son was not ready for marriage, as the provisions of his employment did not allow him to bring a family to that country for three years of joining the company. The girl’s parents were told that our boy will get married now, but your daughter will not be able to go abroad for the next three years and will have to stay in Jodhpur.

Seeing the house and family status, the girl’s parents accepted the above condition and then they got married with pomp. As it happens mostly. In such a case, the girl prefers to remain on her side of the family than her in-laws. But the bride told her In-laws that both of you are working in government jobs and there is a rush of preparation by getting up early in the morning. So I will stay with you and help you with your homework, so that you can be comfortable and my time will also go well. God has given me a good opportunity to serve you at this time, which will not be possible after I go abroad.

If the mother-in-law would sometimes ask the daughter-in-law to go to her parents’, she would come back after four-five days and say that she doesn’t feel like belonging there so she would come back as soon as she can. The night when she comes back to the in-laws, the mother-in-law has to spend the night with her until she is done explaining the details and stories she experienced about her relatives and the locality during her stay.

Three years passed and neither the daughter-in-law realized nor did the parents feel the distance from their child.

The daughter-in-law’s mixed so well with the in-laws it was like milk mixed with sugar. 

After that his son took daughter-in-law abroad. About two years later, the bride became pregnant and it was time for delivery. 

The son-in-law said to the mother-in-law, if you can come abroad, I will have convenience, otherwise I will come to live with you guys in Jodhpur. At that time, the Father-in-law (my good friend) had retired from the central service, but in case of his wife there were about two years left in retirement, both the husband and wife discussed and came to the conclusion that a Voluntary retirement should be taken by her, as this is what the so lovable daughter (ie daughter-in-law) desires. Then both husband and wife after leaving the job went abroad and after eight months on his return to Jodhpur, told me the above story. 

This episode will guide the way for those newly born daughter-in-laws, who are not keeping proper harmony with their mother-in-law and are living in trouble in the in-laws’ house. The basic thing in this is that after marriage, when the girl comes to her in-laws’ house from her husband, then her in-laws’ home becomes her home, and her parents’ home becomes secondary. 

 The life of the in-laws becomes cheerful if the daughters-in-law adopts this belief in a natural, easy way। 

-Er. Tarachand

इस लेख को हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिए यहां क्लिक करें:

बोध-प्रसंग – 7

About 35 years ago, two people named Sohanji and Mohanji lived together in Jodhpur city, who were also relatives. Such incident happened between them that both of them became opponents of each other and even the formal greetings also stopped. Incidentally, both were very close to me. When Mohanji would meet me, he would do evil to Sohanji and similarly whenever Sohanji had to meet me So Mohanji’s evil must have been included in the discussion. In this way, many years passed by listening to the complaints of both the nobles.

Once I thought why not make both of them sit at the same table and feed together so that the closeness can increase. For this, I requested both of them separately that I have an idea to have dinner with you at my house at 8 o’clock in the evening, so you should come to my house at the right time because at 9.30 in the night, I am going to power house from home, on night duty.

Both the gentlemen reached my house at exactly 8 o’clock in the evening. Both were surprised to see each other as I had not made any disclosure of the program with both of them in advance. Mrs. had prepared the food. Immediately all three were served food on the same table and I kept talking to Mohanji and Sohanji. 

After the dinner I thanked them and bid farewell. After attending that day’s program, the bitterness between Mohanji and Sohanji got less and less and last year it was such a condition that Mohanji took Sohanji to his son’s in-law’s house, but forgot to invite me.

Sohanji expresses his happiness by telling me from time to time how successful a small effort of mine was.

-Er. Tarachand

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बोध-प्रसंग 23

A friend of mine has three sons. Earlier all lived with parents. Later the sons got married and started their own business. After some years the two senior sons built their own houses and they started living with the family in houses built in other places in the city. The parents started living in their old house with the family of their younger son.

Later, one day the elder son of a friend met me and told me that because of the separation, the father’s love is more with the youngest brother, they come very rarely to us. I advised him that both of you brothers who live outside, once or twice a month should start eating lunch cooked as per convenience and go to father’s house along with daughter-in-law and children, all three brothers and their families and parents start eating. When the boys started such programs, the love of the parents became undone with all. Such a matter was resolved.

In another family, the wife died and after that the father lived alone in the old house. They have only one son and who lives with the family in a bungalow built in the posh colony of the city. This family is my acquaintance. One day I found that boy of his in the market. When asked about the condition of the house, he said that after the death of the mother, the father lives in the old house. I requested him two or three times that you should come to stay with us, so that you can keep your mind and make arrangements for food and drink. But the father says that he does not want to leave the old house because of his fascination. I told the boy that your father is not coming because it is his house and has spent a lot of life’s journey in it. Maybe they would think that why should I leave my own house and stay at the boy’s house. I further advised that there are four rooms in your new house, allot one room in the name of father. Put a bed and a lock-key cupboard in it and hand it over to the father. Telling my father to stay in the old house for fifteen days and for the remaining fifteen days of the month reside in room number-3 (allotted to father) of the house. The boy did so and the father gradually started living at the boy’s house, with time.

Similarly, in the third friend’s family, along with the parents, two sons lived with daughters-in-law. In the course of time, the father passed away. Later, the elder boy built a house in a separate colony and started residing there with the family. Mataji is spending time with the younger son’s family in the old house of the city. The elder boy wants his mother to come and live in his house. The same old excuse of Mother, I feel like in the old house only. Told that boy the formula of family no.-2 mentioned above. The boy earmarked a room for his mother’s bedroom and kept a lock-key cupboard separately in that room. Slowly the mother started going there and kept half the clothes in her room in the house of the elder boy so that he would not have to bring clothes again and again to come to this house from that house. It is reported that now the mother has set her mind in her designated room at her elder son’s house. Now she is living life happily in that house and sometimes in this house as per her wish. You see, how the matter got resolved.

-Er. Tarachand

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