Eng. Tara Chand

A husband went to Kabir for satsang. He was unhappy with his married life. After his welcome by Kabir, the person asked “My dear God, what is the secret of a happy married life?”

Seeing the despairing face and gesture of the said person, Kabir understood that he does not get along well with his wife. Kabir by saying “I will be explaining” went inside the house. After a while Kabir returned with the yarn from inside and sat in front of that person and started solving it. After some time Kabir called out to his wife “There is a great darkness here. The yarn does not unravel, just keep the lamp.” Kabir’s wife lit a lamp and kept it quietly. The person wondered whether Kabir has become blind, that he feels darkness even in the light of the sun. 

And How is his wife too, who kept the lamp lit silently without protesting. 

After this Kabir’s wife brought milk in two glasses, put one in front of that person and gave the other to Kabir.

Both started drinking milk. Then after a while, Kabir’s wife came again and started asking him, “I hope sweetness is not less in the milk.” Kabir said “No, in fact it’s too sweet.” and then he drank the milk. 

The man was again surprised that there was no sweetness in the milk at all. Rather salt was poured in place of sugar.

After this, this man said with annoyance – Maharaj if you can’t answer my question, so shall I go? 

Kabir said – Hey brother, I have already explained it to you, if you didn’t understand, let me explain it to you? 

For a happy household life, it is necessary to make the members friendly to yourself and also to be family friendly. You can make your wife and children polite, obedient but you should also show affection and forgiveness everywhere in your life. All household life can be successful. 

The person understood everything and happily returned home. 

Note: This topic will be a guide for those couples who, after two years of marriage, due to mutual disputes, want to divorce. 

Today in metro cities, on an average 50 divorce cases are being filed in the courts every day.

-Er. Tarachand

इस लेख को हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिए यहां क्लिक करें:

” सफल दाम्पत्य”

The famous Greek philosopher Sukraat once visited a city while traveling, where he met an old man, Hui. The two mingled quite a bit and talked very frankly. Sukraat said, expressing satisfaction, “Your past life has been wonderful, but in this old age, tell me something about the difficulties you are facing now.”

The old man smiled a bit and said – I am sure to give my family responsibility to my sons. I do what they say. I eat whatever they feed me with and keep on laughing and playing with my grandchildren. I do not hinder their personal work, but whenever they come for counseling, I give advice by keeping all my life experiences in front of them. It’s not my job to watch and spoil my mind to see how much they follow my suggestions. I would not be worried if they make a mistake even after consultation. But when they come to me again, then my door is always open for them and again they are justified.

Sukraat was very pleased to hear from the old man. He said- You have very well understood how to live life at this age.

-Er. Tarachand

इस लेख को हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिए यहां क्लिक करें:

” बोध प्रसंग “

In my childhood, in my village school, a Jodhpur city teacher who was then M.Com. LLB was appointed for the teaching job. His wife was the daughter of a famous doctor of Jodhpur. How the couple coming from the city must have felt in village life six decades ago can be imagined from the fact that their quarters did not even have toilets and they had to spend the night by the light of lanterns.

They had three sons and their education and initiation took place in our village itself. The special thing about Guru Mata’s life was that after her marriage, she always displayed herself as the wife of Gurudev, not as the daughter of a famous Doctor. She managed her household expenses according to Guruji’s salary and herself took pleasure in living a life of simplicity. In childhood, we used to see that they made their children do all the work by hand, it was the responsibility of the children to wash their own clothes and clean the food utensils. Under her guidance, all three children later got higher education, due to which one son is serving as Principal in Higher Secondary, the second boy is a Senior Scientist in Bangalore ISRO and the third boy is a Doctor and is serving as Senior Specialist Medicine. Whenever Gurumata Ji came to Jodhpur, she would bring medicines from her father and if anyone in the village was sick, they would be given free medicines.

She was highly respected in the distributing village and after retirement, Guru Dev was also assigned the post of sarpanch in the village. That family also gave proper guidance to the children of the village, so that they too could go to the city and get higher education after their schooling, and even after retirement, keeping their grandchildren with them, provided higher education and culture.

After starting his job, another gentleman was appointed as a teacher in the same village who belonged to Rani station (which is 15 km from the village) and his wife was from Jodhpur. Second Guru Mata’s father was appointed to a high position at the then Maharaja of Jodhpur. And her brother was a Chartered Accountant in Calcutta five decades ago.

Secondly, Guru Mata Ji always considered herself to be the daughter of a big house in Jodhpur and her husband was a man from a modest village. Fighting with her husband, abusing her in front of us children, and putting Guruji’s ironed clothes in the soil, had become her routine. Guruji was very patient while doing his job and kept on tolerating the horrific behavior of his wife. Presently Guruji’s wife is living life in a separate house in the village. Her daughter got divorced after 2 years of living with ‘in-laws’ and she is also leading a lonely life living separately from Gurumata Ji and Guruji too, after retirement, has become a patient of paralysis. 

This episode will give a new direction to the women, who keep praising their side of the family while staying in their in-laws’ house and look at their husband and father-in-law with an inferiority complex and maintain an atmosphere of dissatisfaction in the house.

In the Jangid society too, the number of divorce cases is rising. 

What is the importance of humility and tolerance to make the family’s life peaceful and pleasant; Both the above incidents make it clear and give us the motivation to have a gentle demeanor?

-Er. Tarachand

इस लेख को हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिए यहां क्लिक करें :

‘बोध प्रसंग’ या बड़े घर की बेटी”

Once, after the death of the mother of one of my social brothers, there was an opportunity to go to the meeting of rituals. Hereafter the meeting, when the time came to perform the lifting ceremony, a pandit Ji was speaking peace text for about half an hour, as if reading a laptop lying in front of his eyes. The condolence messages received from the institutions of the society were also easily read without wearing glasses. The condolence meeting dissolved. So out of curiosity, I reached Pandit ji to get introduced to him and discussed his good health.

Panditji told that he has crossed 79 years and did not have to undergo any eye operation to read books easily without glasses. All 32 teeth are intact. Waking up at 5 in the morning, after retiring from the toilet, I go for a walk 7-8 kilometers away, sitting at the foot of the hill, I complete meditation, yoga, etc. in the lap of nature. I wash my own clothes. In case of minor illness, I do my own naturopathy and home remedies. I also take care of my children myself. You will be happy to know that I have put a board on the front wall of my house, on which it is written that there is no need for a doctor in the house.

Similarly, let me tell you about the second case. I have a fellow design engineer. He once thought that earlier in the forests, the sages used to eat uncooked food, so why can’t we do the same? As a trial, food was not cooked at his home and he ate natural food items like fruits, vegetables, and other natural items from the trees for nights and days and continued with his family members and himself for about six months coming to work, going to the office and there was no deterioration in his health. He says that if we are always connected with nature and keep doing naturopathy, then our bodies can also move like sages.

Now, when it comes to connecting with nature, let me tell you the story of my childhood, and how we were connected with nature at that time. Once when I was passing through a field barefoot at the age of 7-8 years, a big long thorn entered my foot from below and came out on top. I went to Shoemaker’s house weeping, he crushed some of the skin of the foot with his sharp tool and then grabbed the pucker and pulled the whole thorn out of the foot. When a little blood started flowing, Chamar applied finely clean soil on that wound and told me to sit and hold it for a while. The blood stopped. Then a boy urinated on my feet so that the soil could be cleaned and then he made an ointment by rubbing neem bark on the stone and applied it for three-four days and the wound was cured. In those days there was neither antiseptic nor ATS injection in the villages. This is what it means to say. That as much as we stay connected with nature, keep simple life, high thoughts, and mutual brotherhood, so much of life will be happy and healthy.

-Er. Tarachand

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